Facing The Job As Pallbearer At The Funeral Home

Donohue Funeral Home • August 9, 2021

There’s nothing easy about attending final services for a loved one at funeral homes in Downingtown, PA, but if your family has asked you to be a pallbearer and assist the casket in getting from place to place, that might feel intimidating and make you even more nervous about the process. If you’ve never been a pallbearer before, you might not know what to expect. Here are a few tips to help you to face that job with dignity and give your loved one the honor they deserve.

Remember The Honor

Keep in mind that when you are asked to be a pallbearer for someone, it’s a huge honor. The family is trying to tell you that you are important to them and that you were an important person in your loved one’s life as well. It’s an honor to take on that position. Put aside your nerves and carry on with what you agreed to do because it is a true honor.

Follow Directions

If the funeral director gives you instructions on how to handle the casket, how to load and unload onto the hearse, and other such things, follow them carefully. They are there to help you figure out what you need to do and whatever they say is important.

Turn Off Your Phone

 

It’s bad enough to have a phone ring in a movie theater, but at a funeral? That’s definitely not okay. And it’s even worse if you’re a pallbearer in the middle of your duties and can’t reach into your pocket to turn the phone off. Leave it behind, turn it off, or place it on silent. Nothing is more important right now than you’re loved one’s service.

 

Arrive On Time

You never want to be late to a funeral service, but when you are the pallbearer, you have a role that is even more important than an average guest. You want to be there a little early to make sure you get the details you need and are lined up with the other pallbearers. Being late is not an option.

Wear Comfortable Shoes

You don’t want your feet to be pinched or not to be able to walk with ease when you are carrying the casket. You will be on your feet more than others so it’s important to wear comfortable shoes that fit well. Try to find something that looks nice, but also gives you the comfort you need in that area.

Wear Nice Clothing

Pallbearers are going to be in the center of attention at times when they move the casket here and there. The family will see them and it’s important to dress the part. Wearing something dark and conservative is going to be the best bet.

 

When you are heading toward being a pallbearer at funeral homes in Downingtown, PA, there’s nothing wrong with calling the professionals at Donohue Funeral Home to ask for further advice as to what you should expect and other details.

 

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